All to often when folks begin a weight loss program, they get a quarter of the way in or maybe half way through, and experience high levels of self doubt, criticism, and at this point, they quit and go back to their old ways. What is this about and why does it happen?
Emily and John, I believe, are doing the best they can. This is real life. There is a misconception that because Emily and John will receive a prize at the end if they meet their goal, that somehow makes the weight loss easier. Not necessarily true... it just creates a little more focus and lots more excitement. Team of experts or not, feelings are real. John gained 4 pounds during one week of the Challenge. His dad has been ill and back and forth to the hospital, and he still has to support his household. Emily is spending lots of time and money in transport back and forth to the studio for workouts. She has a high demand full time job outside of the house and is a wife and mother to young children who need rides and food and showers and recreational time. Balancing and juggling all of these circumstances can be overwhelming, exhausting, and quite frankly, can make you wanna plant your behind on the couch and skip the workout. With all that said, trying to be creative in the kitchen in the midst of all this emotion can be the icing on the cake, no pun intended...
Feelings of loneliness, disappointment, regret, expectations, hunger (!!!!) can turn into resentment, and when this happens, we tend to want to just quit. Our old life seems appealing, easy, simple, cheaper, less time consuming, etc... These feelings are 100% normal and valid. The challenge is expressing them. But how do we get past them and move forward?
Getting healthy is not just about weight loss. As a matter of fact, what I have found, is that we usually gain the weight because we haven't been heard at some point in our lives. We have in a sense, lost our voice. All of the frustrations that the Ambassadors are experiencing are part of the process. Life will send you the lessons you need to get yourself together, so when you ask for wellness, be ready to get it all the way around! Here are a few things I ran across along my journey to wellness:
1. Find your voice and ask for what we need. If someone says no, ask someone else. There are always people that want you to do well and are willing to help. We just aren't sure who they are yet because we haven't been asking.
2. If something isn't working out, find a solution. Don't wallow in misery and wait for things to change themselves. Be a problem solver.
3. When you feel alone, cheer yourself on. No one made you eat those cookies. These are your goals, not theirs.
4. Celebrate small successes, but don't do so with a cheat meal. That's like a smoker who quit smoking for 30 days and celebrates with a cigarette. No way! Get a massage, a new pair of running shoes, or get a pedicure. Do something healthy and stay motivated.
5. Don't quit! You've done that before and that didn't work. Keep it simple... when you fall off the wagon, jump back on.
6. Do what feels good and don't choose to suffer. If you know you hate running, then find a different activity that you will enjoy so you'll stick with it!
Take good care of yourself always. You are important. Stop stopping and start starting! John and Emily WILL NOT FAIL!
Personal Chef/Fitness Trainer